A couple from a religious organization repeatedly knock at the door.
An elderly woman inside cowers in fear, hiding in her
closet; shaking, tears in her eyes and down her cheeks, wishing they would just
go away.
I can’t get this real life scenario out of my head. Nor can
I ignore the lessons glaring at me because of it:
#1. Learn how to have a backbone and say “no” when it’s in your best interest.
#2. Stop trying to people please. There’s a difference
between being kind, being kind to oneself and being kind to others. Be kind,
but don’t sacrifice YOUr integrity, finances, body, heart or anything else that
takes away from your own spirit, or depletes at your own expense or makes you
fall behind to lift another.
#3. You don’t have to do anything that doesn’t fill you with
joy and happiness. Walk away. Or go to the closet and stay until it’s safe to
come out.
#4. People often try forcing their views and "good" intentions upon
others. Don’t be like them.
#5. Only really open your door if you want to open your door
to the outside world. And be cautious about who you let in.
#6. Listen to your inner voice. And don’t just listen…
Follow.
#7. Too many times there is simply nothing that can be done.
People you love are sometimes too far away to reach, whether physically or
emotionally. Send love. It might not be felt or received, but it creates a
bridge that keeps a connect when things out of our control cause a sense of
loss or grief or disappointment. No matter what, love.
#8. Feel sorry for others, hurt for others, but it isn’t your
job to fix them or to try to change their minds or bend their wills to match your
own.
#9. Stand firm in who you are. Don’t be afraid to know who
YOU are, to represent who you are every single day. Peer pressure is for cowards (both sides),
unafraid to think for themselves and too afraid to venture out into unknown
places or open their minds to explore the limitless “what if’s”.
#10. Free your mind from attachments to fear. The worst that
could ever happen? In any scenario, the worst has happened somewhere, to someone
and they’ve either survived or not. Chains are usually invisible. Everything
usually is all right in the end. Breathe.
My mom trained me, along with other people and other
organizations that it’s the “right” thing to give and give and give. I’m arguing
today, that while it’s noble, it can also be so damaging. It’s not “right” to
deplete yourself beyond the breaking point, past the point of “empty”. Too hard
to repair damage done. I usually preach about having an open heart, being a good
person. But today? I’m thinking in order to be the best at anything we choose to
be, it’s vital to protect and take care of the most valuable gift given: You. Care for your temple – your body, your mind, your heart, your
soul.
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